Persistent ex-boyfriend

[manya]

My ex is back and wants to reconcile with me after he left me for another woman. I told him that I am not available anymore but he is persistent with his motive. What do I do?

[Karen]

How reasonable is he? Can you just tell him no again and he'll go away, or is he a crazy stalker type? If it's the former, perhaps he was misled by your polite manner to think you weren't serious. If it's the latter, don't answer calls or emails and keep track of any contact in case you need to go to the police.

[Marnie]

I agree with Karen. Keep ignoring him on every aspect. If he persists then tell him you will call the police and will have to take a more drastic action.

[Vianne]

Just keep saying that you don't want to be with him. If he is going to ignore your pleas for him to stop then he is not the right person for you. He should take your feelings into consideration.

[Ibha]

If it were me, I would tell him once more, and if he refused to take 'no' for an answer, I would go get a restraining order. That would be better than having to keep dealing with him.

[Zhara]

This is a situation that sounds like it could turn scary if he continues to be persistent. The news media frequently reports stalking. If it were me, I would also be very aware of my surroundings, just in case.

[NewtoU]

Yeah it does sound like you need to be careful. If he won't leave you alone you have to be concerned that he is going to behave inappropriately toward you and possibly hurt you.

[Teron]

Listen, when a person leaves you for another person, that is a mistake that should not be forgiven because the chances are that they will do it again. And even if not, they left you for another. Basically he was saying you weren't good enough for him. Who cares what he wants. You've already had that seperation so the pain wouldn't be as strong now just walking away forever. Don't sell yourself short by putting up with an idiot. There are plenty of other guys out there.

[bhagyashri]

Just say no and tell him that you're not available anymore. He shouldn't have left you in the first place. That kind of person is so selfish and is so full of himself. Don't go back to him because you're in a happy relationship with your current partner.

[Lacey]

You might need some intervention from a family member or friend. Does he have any friends you know well enough to help him get the message through?