Kids or no kids?

[rajen]

When you get past your mid-twenties, most people have had children. Some haven't for one reason or another. When you're looking at a potential partner, would you prefer kids or no kids? What does it say about someone who is 25-30 and doesn't have any kids?

[LotusFlower]

I prefer my potential partner to not have kids because then you also have to deal with the ex and building a relationship with the kids themselves. I think many people are waiting until later to have kids, so someone who is 25-30 without kids wouldn't bother me a bit.

[Roxanne]

(08-06-2011 07:10 AM)rajen Wrote:  What does it say about someone who is 25-30 and doesn't have any kids?

The only thing that could possibly tell you is that they don't want kids, yet or ever. I don't think it can possibly say anything else. I don't intend to have kids at all and I prefer a partner with similar ideals for their life.

[Dalhia]

I would prefer him to not have kids but be waiting for the right person to have kids with. This is romantically speaking not just friends. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship and have to put up with the drama of a ex spouse of mother of the kids getting between us. I am in that age range of middle 20's I am 25 and do not have any kids yet.

[TinaHB]

Yes, I think that a partner with kids might bring along a lot of drama that is just not necessary or productive for a real relationship. You have to be completely ready for something like that.

[PreciousFlower]

I think people are having children later these days. I have kids, and I think if I date someone with kids, they will be a little more understanding of my children.

[rajen]

So many of my friends have kids, and some of them are divorced and under 25. They're going out and dating, and one even got engaged (again lol). I'm getting older and want to date someone that doesn't have kids. Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't want to take care of someone else's contribution.

[Dash]

I don't think it's selfish to not want to have to take care of someone else's child. I think everybody has to set their own limits for themselves and know what they do and do not want. It would be selfish to put yourself in a situation you know you shouldn't be in just out of convenience.

[ilikegirl]

I agree with you dash. It's probably worse for everyone involved if you are putting yourself into the situation without even being interested in caring for the kids. I want my own kids not someone else's! That's my view.

[harddisk01]

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